Mom Irks

We all have those little triggers that annoy us deep to our core. Things that are so commonly said, but piss us right off. Assumptions or unsolicited advice on particular matters. Life expectations or outdated phrases. I most certainly have some, especially since becoming a mother.

I find it frustrating to be coming from strangers or those close to us. Some matters are taboo and are none of your business. Others are not up for debate or discussion yet seem to resurface. Opinions can be shared, when welcomed. Debate is healthy, yet when it comes to someone’s personal life, some matters are not up for outsiders to decide. It is equally fascinating and frustrating to witness someone thinking their way is the only way. We are all individuals with independent lives, while some of us still follow certain lifestyles and code of conduct, it does not mean we all share the same brain.

Here are a few examples of these “irks” that really get under my skin.

Saying my husband is “babysitting” our children. It is not babysitting when they are your own kids.

Assuming we are done having children, or asking when we are having more. None of your business and may not have been decided just yet. Even worse, what if that person is having complications or even losses, this can be extremely triggering and emotional to discuss.

Telling me I look tired. Duhhhh, I am quite aware and do not need to be reminded.

Not respecting me enough to remember my allergies or aversions. I’m not being impractical here with saying these things can never be served, but when they are the main event and I am your guest and you know what I cannot have, it’s rude. Mistakes happen, when reoccurring, it sucks.

Unsolicited advise on my weight. No thanks, not up for discussion.

Unsolicited advice on how I raise my kids. Also not up for discussion. While communal conversations can be had on how we each handled situations and genuine curiosity is invited, explicate resolve is not.

The comparison game. This is done to us enough through social media, enough is enough.

We all have things that irk us, and some of us handle them better than others. It ultimately comes down to how hurtful or invasive that topic can be. Let’s all try to be more kind to one another, the world deserve it and we all deserve a better world from it.

Melanie xoxox