Top 3 Adulting Struggles
Adulting is hard. Some days I question if I am a real adult or not.
When do we ever feel like a real adult? I thought for certain it would be once I got married, not the case. Or when I became a mother, wrong again! We are expected to become and act like adults as we turn 18 here is Canada. 18 years old is when you become a legal adult, but not when you mentally become one, that is for sure! When I was 18, I didn’t even know what I wanted to do with my weekend or have for lunch, let alone with my life or how to act mature enough to be taken seriously.
Even now, as I am well into my thirties, there are 3 major things I struggle with that adults should be able to manage, yet I seem to lose focus on. I can tend to my home and family, manage chores and the household, heck, my career prior to becoming a mother was to be an Executive Assistant for a busy company and manage day to day procedures and teams. Yet I have my weaknesses. I wonder if others can relate to these.
Forms
Filling out forms at clinics, or the hospital, or for potential child care, or anything for that matter, I seem to go blank in my mind. Especially when they are lengthily, I really need to focus as I find myself questioning my truths as I fill out so many mundane, yet important questions. Am I really that height? Can I lie about my weight? How about my age, do they fact check the year? Comical, I know, yet I always second guess my answers. Ever read a mortgage document? It’s wild. And legal documents? No thank you! Even getting into other financial paperwork, it’s just a lot and I swear my mind falls asleep.
Intructions
I can take instructions in work environments and follow directions. But when it comes to following a recipe or furniture construction, I tend to find my mind wander and want to skip ahead. This never works well for me, so I really need to apply myself and do as it says. While there is flexibility at times, especially with recipes and certain quantities of ingredients or replacements, those who have taken the time to write out ingredient lists or directions to build furniture, have done so for a reason. And methodically. So I am not doing myself any favors by skipping steps.
Socializing
Is it just me, or does socializing become more difficult and even more awkward the older we get? Kindness will never not be a good approach, but keeping a conversation with new people is hard! I am genuinely interested in what the other party has to say, but I clam up and get shy almost. It also stems from some anxieties of wanting to be accepted. Being who we truly are is amazing and we need to respect ourselves and be confident in who we are. Yet that seems to be weakened when meeting new people and trying to make new friends. Especially when a majority of our daily socializing is with a toothless baby who can’t quite form actual words just yet.
What are your biggest struggles with adulting? We all have strengths and weaknesses. Good parts and bad parts. Accepting our imperfections is what makes us stronger and more relatable.
Melanie xoxox