I’m Done: An Emotional Tough-Love Letter to Myself
Getting married and changing my last name. Moving to a small town after living in a city my entire life. Becoming a mother. All of these things combined have changed who I am. Have changed my identity. I am a different person than who I was five years ago, ten years ago, twenty years ago. I have morphed into this new, blossoming being who has gained and lost so much. My way of thinking has changed. My goals and aspirations have changed. My habits and lifestyle have changed immensely.
The following is a series of realizations I have made over the years and have come to terms with recently to truly gratify myself, my lifestyle, and the way I see myself. I am a changed woman and accepting that, as hard as it may be at times, is extremely empowering.
I’m done…
Comparing myself to other people and their lives. My life is it’s own beautiful creation.
Hating my body. It has created life and I need to give it grace for the incredible, amazing things it has accomplished.
Settling for less than I deserve. Especially in career choices as I am a hard working woman with goals and ambition.
Planning or wishing for things instead of doing them. You have to take risks to reap the rewards.
Fearing failure, as failure is simply a learning tool.
Thinking that I am not ready or can’t handle something when I have proven I can handle anything with grace and dignity.
Thinking that I am broken or damaged from past traumas and mistakes when those things were out of my control or simply happened and I have grown so damn much due to those experiences.
Making excuses for myself or others. I am in control of myself and must own my own actions. I cannot control others and must allow them to do their own damage and learn for themselves.
Not taking time for myself. I am deserving of some self reflection and breathing space.
Thinking people will change. While everyone is capable of change, it has to come from within them and not my business to try and guide that if they are not willing participants.
Feeling helpless or worthless. I am strong and able. I am worthy beyond measure.
PROCRASTINATING. This is it’s own level of self harm. While time may not always be on our side as parents, when we do gain time, procrastinating is only causing more harm than good.
Having unrealistic expectations of myself. I am capable of achieving anything I want, but I need to allow myself the time to put in the effort and see the results flourish.
Dwelling on things I cannot control. A bit of a repeat here, but still so important. Things happen, life happens, not everything is going to be perfect and go as planned. Accepting this is extremely hard, but learning to adjust to the unexpected shows personal growth.
Doubting myself in any way. I can be my own worst enemy, but trying to be my own personal cheerleader is far more rewarding.
What are you ready to be done with? Give yourself the strength and power to be more confident, eloquent and gentle with yourself.
Melanie xoxox